CONNNECTION BEFORE CORRECTION

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Don'tmissourothertools&tips Teachchildrenself-appreciation Thankyoustickers Teachyoungchildrentoreadtime 5languageoflove Whenanincidenttakesplacewhereachildstartstohaveanintenseemotion, itishelpfultoslowhim/herdown, keephim/herinthethinkingbrainbystating theexperiencedemotion,stayconnectwithhim/herempatheticallyandnot tofeedorescalatethatintenseemotion,neithertobetooquicklytocorrect. Becauseonceachildmovesfromhis/herthinkingbraintotheemotional brain,he/shestartstoreactwith'fight,freeze,flee'.Anditisinthisstatus,the childislostforawhile,almostnothingsaidwillgointohis/herears.

Forexample: Iknowmychildisgettingangry, Imayquicklysay'wait,slowdown,takeabreath, I havenoticedthatyouareangry,veryangryabout xxx. Icanseefromyourreactionzzz. Ifit happenstomethesame, Iwillbeangrytoo. (pause...)HowcanIhelpyoutofeelbetter?'

Bysayingso, Ivalidatemychild'ssituationandfeeling,sothatshemayfeelsafetoexpressherself withme;

Itestmyunderstandingandofferempathyabouthersituation,sowestayconnected;I alsohelphertobeawareofheremotionandtherelatedsubsequentreactions.

Itisinthismoment-aspaceisbeingopenedupandexpandedforresponses,